Sunday, July 15, 2012
Friday, June 29, 2012
Bisexual Songs
One of the things I notice as a bisexual is I am pulled in too directions, straight or lesbian. When I watch a lesbian movie I see myself with a girl, when I watch a movie with a straight couple I see myself ending up with a boy. Both feel normal but not complete. It is almost like being torn down the middle. I love things that speak to my bisexuality. Lately I found some songs about bisexuality that I really like! It feels like the both sides of me :)
Bisexual Songs!
Katy Perry's- I Kissed a Girl: This song makes kissing a girl seem so carefree and normal and sexy! It doesn't touch on the emotional side for women as much but it is a really fun sexual song.
Dj Irene's- I do Both Jay and Jane: This song is so funny! A wonderful listen! It touches on the best parts of bisexuality! I feel like it is so true it makes you feel so good about your sexuality.
Missy Higgin's-Scar: I LOVE this song. It touches on bisexuality to a T. It is a lot more about the emotional side of attraction towards both genders. HIGHLY RECOMMEND!
The Veronica's-Take Me on the Floor: The girls who sing this song are so attractive. Just saying. I would highly recommend this song. It is fun hip and crazy.
TATU's- Loves me Not: This song is just fun and another add to the list.
Tpain or Trey Songz-Girl got a girlfriend: This song makes me angry because the guy just joins in on these two girls. Just because we are bisexual doesn't mean we need guys all the time when we are with a girl. The song is also sung by a guy. But it is a song about bisexuality with a good beat.
These are my recommendations! Hope you enjoy the songs!
Bisexual Songs!
Katy Perry's- I Kissed a Girl: This song makes kissing a girl seem so carefree and normal and sexy! It doesn't touch on the emotional side for women as much but it is a really fun sexual song.
Dj Irene's- I do Both Jay and Jane: This song is so funny! A wonderful listen! It touches on the best parts of bisexuality! I feel like it is so true it makes you feel so good about your sexuality.
Missy Higgin's-Scar: I LOVE this song. It touches on bisexuality to a T. It is a lot more about the emotional side of attraction towards both genders. HIGHLY RECOMMEND!
The Veronica's-Take Me on the Floor: The girls who sing this song are so attractive. Just saying. I would highly recommend this song. It is fun hip and crazy.
TATU's- Loves me Not: This song is just fun and another add to the list.
Tpain or Trey Songz-Girl got a girlfriend: This song makes me angry because the guy just joins in on these two girls. Just because we are bisexual doesn't mean we need guys all the time when we are with a girl. The song is also sung by a guy. But it is a song about bisexuality with a good beat.
These are my recommendations! Hope you enjoy the songs!
Sunday, May 20, 2012
Other Countries
America Is Pretty Great For The Most Part... But we don't honor gay marriage like other countries, there are several other countries that honor gay marriage when we don't.
Countries that honor Gay Marriage or Civil Union for same Sex Couples are:
Argentina
Belgium
Brazil
Canada
Iceland
Isreal
Mexico
The Netherlands
Norway
Portugal
South Africa
Spain
Sweden
In my opinion for a country (America) that is supposed to be about freedom and equality, it certainly doesn't feel like that right now.
Countries that honor Gay Marriage or Civil Union for same Sex Couples are:
Argentina
Belgium
Brazil
Canada
Iceland
Isreal
Mexico
The Netherlands
Norway
Portugal
South Africa
Spain
Sweden
Gay Marriage
One of the political issues I would like to bring up is gay marriage. There is a lot of rights that a marriage has for a couple. If you are straight I would ask that you educate people on gay people or bisexuals, that our message is really about love so that we may have the right to marry who we love one day. If you are bisexual or gay I hope you are spreading the message so that we can make marriage for homosexual couples legal one day. I would love one day to have the love I have for another person honored in case I marry someone of the same gender. Imagine not being able to visit the love of your life in the hospital with their last final minuets of their life because you are not related and your relationship is not honored by law... Lets change that! Please vote in favor of gay marriage, and support same sex marriage.
-Better or lower cost insurance
-Can pay a lot less for taxes
-Their partner can gain power of attorney,health care decisions, and inheritance rights
- They can be on the same insurance (like for their company they can put their partner on their insurance plan)
-Estate tax
The benefits of gay marriage studies have shown:
- Less stress in households
-In places where gay marriage is illegal couples have shown to have the highest level of "Minority Stress"
-It encourages monogamy and safe long term committed relationships setting positive examples
This list is just SOME of the benefits
Being Bisexual
What is it like to like both genders?
Sometimes it rocks!
You really understand guys because you both have one huge thing in common! Women! You can talk about girls you like, issues you are having with your girlfriend, and your on the same page! Most guys when I tell them I am bisexual say, "Awesome" and we launch into a conversation about women!
The other perk about being bisexual is girls are usually okay with it because you still like men and so you still can talk about guys together.
The gay community can be very accepting and you can talk with lesbian friends about women.
Sometimes it is not so great....
Sometimes if you tell a straight girl they can look at you weirdly and feel uncomfortable. There is also a big part that you don't have in common, you also like women and they don't.
Sometimes lesbians can say to you "Make up your mind" or dislike the fact that you like men and will say things like, "Well you're not like me you like men."
When both groups don't like the fact that you prefer both genders you can kind of be out on your own island. It can be hard to find people you can relate to because being bisexual is a thing by itself.
Another issue is guys can be really disrespectful about your attraction to women and think it is only a sexual thing and say things like "That is hot" and not respect the fact that being bisexual is about loving someone and isn't a game.
Finally, a lot of people say things to you like "It is a phase" or "Everyone experiments."
Let me clarify my girlfriends are not science experiments. I don't inject them with green goo and just date them to play around. I date them because I have feelings for them and am attracted to them. It is also not a phase unless a phase is something that you remain as for the rest of your life. I believe you are born bisexual and I want my relationships with women to be honored as what it really is, romantic love that I have for another person.
Sometimes it rocks!
You really understand guys because you both have one huge thing in common! Women! You can talk about girls you like, issues you are having with your girlfriend, and your on the same page! Most guys when I tell them I am bisexual say, "Awesome" and we launch into a conversation about women!
The other perk about being bisexual is girls are usually okay with it because you still like men and so you still can talk about guys together.
The gay community can be very accepting and you can talk with lesbian friends about women.
Sometimes it is not so great....
Sometimes if you tell a straight girl they can look at you weirdly and feel uncomfortable. There is also a big part that you don't have in common, you also like women and they don't.
Sometimes lesbians can say to you "Make up your mind" or dislike the fact that you like men and will say things like, "Well you're not like me you like men."
When both groups don't like the fact that you prefer both genders you can kind of be out on your own island. It can be hard to find people you can relate to because being bisexual is a thing by itself.
Another issue is guys can be really disrespectful about your attraction to women and think it is only a sexual thing and say things like "That is hot" and not respect the fact that being bisexual is about loving someone and isn't a game.
Finally, a lot of people say things to you like "It is a phase" or "Everyone experiments."
Let me clarify my girlfriends are not science experiments. I don't inject them with green goo and just date them to play around. I date them because I have feelings for them and am attracted to them. It is also not a phase unless a phase is something that you remain as for the rest of your life. I believe you are born bisexual and I want my relationships with women to be honored as what it really is, romantic love that I have for another person.
Funny Story...
I was sitting in the car with two of my friends during my off hour and we were eating bagel chips and just talking about relationships as girls do.
The only twist was that I was the bisexual in the car, one of my friends in the car is straight, and the other is a lesbian. We are all in relationships.
My lesbian friend was talking about her girlfriend and the fun Friday night she had had with her girlfriend, where they cuddled and kissed. Me and my other friend were supportive and gave her congratulatory high fives on her first kiss with her new girlfriend.
My straight friend was talking about her boyfriend. Telling us stories about cute notes he leaves her and what he is like as a kisser. We were all giggly talking about him together as girls.
I was talking about my girlfriend as well. The funny thing is when my friend was talking about her girlfriend I was thinking "ooolalal!" and when my other friend was talking about her boyfriend I was thinking "Ohhhlalal" I know what it is like to kiss a girl you like and to kiss a guy you like. Though my lesbian friend is supportive she sometimes looks funny at me my straight friend when we drool at hot guys, and my straight friend still looks at me and my lesbian friend when we drool at hot girls.
The point of my story is I don't think sexuality is a choice, nor do I think people can influence each other's sexuality. When I listen to my lesbian friend talk I wonder "But how can you not find muscles appealing though... and big strong arms guys have, and when they smile at you" and when I hear my straight friend talk sometimes I think "How can you not look at girls and love their smiles or there long soft hair or fruity perfumes"
I will never know what its like to be straight or a lesbian. And they will never know what it is like to be bisexual. But talking with them about our crushes makes you realize its all about who you love and being happy. Gender doesn't matter.
Below is a link about a coming out story of a bisexual!
http://www.polarimagazine.com/idaho-2012/idaho-myths-bisexuality
So I took my girlfriend to prom!
I was really nervous about how it would go because generally it is a man and a woman who go to prom. Surprisingly however everyone was okay with it. I didn't feel uncomfortable at the dance with her at all! It was if I had brought a guy. We didn't get any rude comments or any dirty looks. It made me really happy because I think it would have been upsetting to have anything negative happen.I had to buy her a corsage which I have never done before and she bought me one and I had to tie it on for her. I will admit I was actually really nervous, parents came over and took photos beforehand. Introducing her to the parents made me really nervous and picture were pretty awkward because all lined up for photos it was pretty obvious that we were two girls going together. One of my friends is Lutheran and her parents were there, in their religion they believe that dating someone of the same sex is wrong. They were very respectful however and I really appreciated that. The whole night at dinner my friend who is Lutheran she was very nice as well. I felt really accepted. My girlfriend and I were holding hands and our waiter was very nice and polite and didn't act weirdly or treat us any different either. Slow dancing at the dance was weird because we tried a gender neutral slow dance position and neither of us had done it before but we made it work in the end. We ended up having a really fun time and saw an open gay couple there which was fun. I was really happy that everything went how it did. My advice to you if you are gay or bisexual and dating someone who is the same gender bring them to a dance. I had no problem and if you are confident and self assured it feels good to bring someone you like to dance with you. If you are straight show your support and smile at us! Acceptance feels great! :)
I was really nervous about how it would go because generally it is a man and a woman who go to prom. Surprisingly however everyone was okay with it. I didn't feel uncomfortable at the dance with her at all! It was if I had brought a guy. We didn't get any rude comments or any dirty looks. It made me really happy because I think it would have been upsetting to have anything negative happen.I had to buy her a corsage which I have never done before and she bought me one and I had to tie it on for her. I will admit I was actually really nervous, parents came over and took photos beforehand. Introducing her to the parents made me really nervous and picture were pretty awkward because all lined up for photos it was pretty obvious that we were two girls going together. One of my friends is Lutheran and her parents were there, in their religion they believe that dating someone of the same sex is wrong. They were very respectful however and I really appreciated that. The whole night at dinner my friend who is Lutheran she was very nice as well. I felt really accepted. My girlfriend and I were holding hands and our waiter was very nice and polite and didn't act weirdly or treat us any different either. Slow dancing at the dance was weird because we tried a gender neutral slow dance position and neither of us had done it before but we made it work in the end. We ended up having a really fun time and saw an open gay couple there which was fun. I was really happy that everything went how it did. My advice to you if you are gay or bisexual and dating someone who is the same gender bring them to a dance. I had no problem and if you are confident and self assured it feels good to bring someone you like to dance with you. If you are straight show your support and smile at us! Acceptance feels great! :)
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