Lesbian Answers put out a bisexual video! Yay! It is sort of a rant and very blunt but I enjoyed watching it! Thought I would put it up for you guys to see!

Bisexual Songs

One of the things I notice as a bisexual is I am pulled in too directions, straight or lesbian. When I watch a lesbian movie I see myself with a girl, when I watch a movie with a straight couple I see myself ending up with a boy. Both feel normal but not complete. It is almost like being torn down the middle. I love things that speak to my bisexuality. Lately I found some songs about bisexuality that I really like! It feels like the both sides of me :)

Bisexual Songs!

Katy Perry's- I Kissed a Girl: This song makes kissing a girl seem so carefree and normal and sexy! It doesn't touch on the emotional side for women as much but it is a really fun sexual song.

Dj Irene's- I do Both Jay and Jane: This song is so funny! A wonderful listen! It touches on the best parts of bisexuality! I feel like it is so true it makes you feel so good about your sexuality.

Missy Higgin's-Scar: I LOVE this song. It touches on bisexuality to a T. It is a lot more about the emotional side of attraction towards both genders. HIGHLY RECOMMEND!

The Veronica's-Take Me on the Floor: The girls who sing this song are so attractive. Just saying. I would highly recommend this song. It is fun hip and crazy.

TATU's- Loves me Not: This song is just fun and another add to the list.

Tpain or Trey Songz-Girl got a girlfriend: This song makes me angry because the guy just joins in on these two girls. Just because we are bisexual doesn't mean we need guys all the time when we are with a girl. The song is also sung by a guy. But it is a song about bisexuality with a good beat.

These are my recommendations! Hope you enjoy the songs!

Other Countries

America Is Pretty Great For The Most Part... But we don't honor gay marriage like other countries, there are several other countries that honor gay marriage when we don't.

Countries that honor Gay Marriage or Civil Union for same Sex Couples are:

Argentina

Belgium

Brazil

Canada

Iceland

Isreal

Mexico

The Netherlands

Norway

Portugal

South Africa

Spain

Sweden

In my opinion for a country (America) that is supposed to be about freedom and equality, it certainly doesn't feel like that right now.

Gay Marriage

             
            One of the political issues I would like to bring up is gay marriage.  There is a lot of rights that a marriage has for a couple.  If you are straight I would ask that you educate people on gay people or bisexuals, that our message is really about love so that we may have the right to marry who we love one day.  If you are bisexual or gay I hope you are spreading the message so that we can make marriage for homosexual couples legal one day.  I would love one day to have the love I have for another person honored in case I marry someone of the same gender. Imagine not being able to visit the love of your life in the hospital with their last final minuets of their life because you are not related and your relationship is not honored by law... Lets change that! Please vote in favor of gay marriage, and support same sex marriage.

Some of the rights that gay marriage would give to same sex-couples are:

-Better or lower cost insurance
-Can pay a lot less for taxes
-Their partner can gain power of attorney,health care decisions, and inheritance rights
- They can be on the same insurance (like for their company they can put their partner on their insurance plan)
-Estate tax

The benefits of gay marriage studies have shown:

- Less stress in households
-In places where gay marriage is illegal couples have shown to have the highest level of "Minority Stress"
-It encourages monogamy and safe long term committed relationships setting positive examples

This list is just SOME of the benefits

Being Bisexual

What is it like to like both genders?

Sometimes it rocks! 

You really understand guys because you both have one huge thing in common! Women! You can talk about girls you like, issues you are having with your girlfriend, and your on the same page! Most guys when I tell them I am bisexual say, "Awesome" and we launch into a conversation about women!

The other perk about being bisexual is girls are usually okay with it because you still like men and so you still can talk about guys together.

The gay community can be very accepting and you can talk with lesbian friends about women.

Sometimes it is not so great....

Sometimes if you tell a straight girl they can look at you weirdly and feel uncomfortable.  There is also a big part that you don't have in common, you also like women and they don't.

Sometimes lesbians can say to you "Make up your mind" or dislike the fact that you like men and will say things like, "Well you're not like me you like men."

When both groups don't like the fact that you prefer both genders you can kind of be out on your own island.  It can be hard to find people you can relate to because being bisexual is a thing by itself.

Another issue is guys can be really disrespectful about your attraction to women and think it is only a sexual thing and say things like "That is hot" and not respect the fact that being bisexual is about loving someone and isn't a game.

Finally, a lot of people say things to you like "It is a phase" or "Everyone experiments."
Let me clarify my girlfriends are not science experiments. I don't inject them with green goo and just date them to play around. I date them because I have feelings for them and am attracted to them. It is also not a phase unless a phase is something that you remain as for the rest of your life.  I believe you are born bisexual and I want my relationships with women to be honored as what it really is, romantic love that I have for another person.

Funny Story...

I was sitting in the car with two of my friends during my off hour and we were eating bagel chips and just talking about relationships as girls do.

The only twist was that I was the bisexual in the car, one of my friends in the car is straight, and the other is a lesbian. We are all in relationships.

My lesbian friend was talking about her girlfriend and the fun Friday night she had had with her girlfriend, where they cuddled and kissed.  Me and my other friend were supportive and gave her congratulatory high fives on her first kiss with her new girlfriend.

My straight friend was talking about her boyfriend.  Telling us stories about cute notes he leaves her and what he is like as a kisser.  We were all giggly talking about him together as girls.

I was talking about my girlfriend as well.  The funny thing is when my friend was talking about her girlfriend I was thinking "ooolalal!" and when my other friend was talking about her boyfriend I was thinking "Ohhhlalal" I know what it is like to kiss a girl you like and to kiss a guy you like.  Though my lesbian friend is supportive she sometimes looks funny at me my straight friend when we drool at hot guys, and my straight friend still looks at me and my lesbian friend when we drool at hot girls.

The point of my story is I don't think sexuality is a choice, nor do I think people can influence each other's sexuality.  When I listen to my lesbian friend talk I wonder "But how can you not find muscles appealing though... and big strong arms guys have, and when they smile at you" and when I hear my straight friend talk sometimes I think "How can you not look at girls and love their smiles or there long soft hair or fruity perfumes"

I will never know what its like to be straight or a lesbian.  And they will never know what it is like to be bisexual.  But talking with them about our crushes makes you realize its all about who you love and being happy. Gender doesn't matter.






Below is a link about a coming out story of a bisexual!

http://www.polarimagazine.com/idaho-2012/idaho-myths-bisexuality

So I took my girlfriend to prom! 

I was really nervous about how it would go because generally it is a man and a woman who go to prom. Surprisingly however everyone was okay with it. I didn't feel uncomfortable at the dance with her at all! It was if I had brought a guy.  We didn't get any rude comments or any dirty looks. It made me really happy because I think it would have been upsetting to have anything negative happen.I had to buy her a corsage which I have never done before and she bought me one and I had to tie it on for her. I will admit I was actually really nervous, parents came over and took photos beforehand.  Introducing her to the parents made me really nervous and picture were pretty awkward because all lined up for photos it was pretty obvious that we were two girls going together.  One of my friends is Lutheran and her parents were there, in their religion they believe that dating someone of the same sex is wrong.  They were very respectful however and I really appreciated that. The whole night at dinner my friend who is Lutheran she was very nice as well. I felt really accepted.  My girlfriend and I were holding hands and our waiter was very nice and polite and didn't act weirdly or treat us any different either.  Slow dancing at the dance was weird because we tried a gender neutral slow dance position and neither of us had done it before but we made it work in the end.  We ended up having a really fun time and saw an open gay couple there which was fun.  I was really happy that everything went how it did. My advice to you if you are gay or bisexual and dating someone who is the same gender bring them to a dance. I had no problem and if you are confident and self assured it feels good to bring someone you like to dance with you.  If you are straight show your support and smile at us! Acceptance feels great! :)

Bisexual Myths

Common Myths on Bisexuality are everywhere! I would like to clear some of the most common ones up!

"Everyone is bisexual"

This is NOT true. So many people are straight.  It is common for people to occasionally feel attraction towards someone of the same gender, this attraction usually passes for most people. If you have an attraction to someone of the same gender once, or have kissed a girl, it doesn't make you a bisexual. Bisexuals are physically, emotionally, and spiritually attracted to both genders and it is something that does not change throughout their lives.

"Bisexuals spread sexually transmitted diseases, and are 'Dirty'"

Just because a bisexual can have sex with both genders doesnt mean they don't practice safe sex. Bisexuals can use protection. Just because they are bisexual does not mean they have a higher rate of contracting a disease.


"Bisexuals can't be monogamous"

Bisexuals can date one person for their whole life be it a guy or girl.  They can date several men and women or they can be with one person their whole life, just as a straight person could be with several people or one person.


"Bisexuals don't exist"

I am going to let you in on a secret... were real! I know, I know its shocking, its like finding out the Easter Bunny is real! We can fall in love with a guy or a girl. We could be physically attracted to men or women.  And as a bisexual who is blogging this I can tell you I am sure of who I like and the people I am attracted to.

"Bisexuals Like Everyone"

Not true.  Just as a straight girl likes guys it doesn't mean she likes every guy, it is the gender she is attracted to.  For me personally (and other bisexuals as well) there are certain people we are attracted to and certain people we aren't attracted to.  I find some women and men attractive and some women and men I am not attracted to at all.
 


If you would like to read more visit the link below.

http://www.uic.edu/depts/quic/bisandallies/myths.html

or Check this site out

http://www.alternet.org/sex/149710/9_stupid_myths_about_bisexuals_that_will_make_you_laugh/

We are a myth?

The other day a guy came up to me and my friends and I were talking.  The fact that I had a girlfriend came up and he says to me," Wait so you're a lesbian?" I respond, "No I am a bisexual," To which he responds I don't believe that there is such a thing I think you're gay and bisexuals use it as a cover up."

I set him straight by explaining there are bisexuals.  People can like and be attracted to both genders just like a straight girl could like several different types of guys. I guess I am reiterating the fact that bisexuality does exist, and while there are people who can be using the word bisexual to come out of the closet half way, there are also bisexuals who will stay bisexual. 

Now in my blog I have been talking a lot about women. I would like to point out that I do like men as well. Celebrities like Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom, and guys that go to my school.  Men and women alike are beautiful.  Just as a person has two hands and can hold two things at once bisexuals can like both genders. I read a funny quote on a site that said , "If God had intended for there to be bisexuals he would have created two genders..." Haha :)

The Flag

So I did some research online and bisexuals have a flag! It is a pink and blue colors overlapping to make purple.  Obviously the two colors coming together represents the bisexuals.  There is also a page on Facebook that is called "Bisexuals Exist." On the website it talks about how there are people who are truly bisexual, it isn't a phase, they are gay and hiding their sexuality, and they aren't straight just because they marry a man or gay just because they marry a woman. Bisexuals face a lot of stereotypes and have a there are a lot of myths about bisexuality.

Bisexual Questions:

Bisexual Questions...






The other day my friend asked me a question that I had to clear up for her...



" So do you have to date a guy and a girl at the same time to truly be satisfied?"



It is a good question but the answer is no. For example if you are straight girl and you are in love with a guy, you could technically be dating plenty of other guys and you are probably still attracted to men.  But does that mean that you have to date everyone that your attracted to or could possibly love when you already have a boyfriend? No.  Being bisexual just means you have two genders you can fall in love with. Not two genders you have to date.  

More Famous Bisexuals!

So I found out about some new bisexuals to add to our famous Bisexual list!



Anna Paquin

Laura Lafrate

And....

Jillian Michaels just came out recently!

I really admire these celebrities for coming out! I didn't put on any of the famous lesbians even though there are a lot of lesbians as well.  I hope I am getting people to realize that there are a lot of bisexuals out in the world and this just the famous people. I bet you are having trouble thinking of straight celebrities.... just kidding :)

I had a friend of mine who is a lesbian write in as a guest blogger... here is what she had to say :) 

"

When a person asks me, “how long have you known that you were gay?” I have trouble answering that question. A common misconception about LGBT people is that that we have always known and accepted the fact that we were gay, bisexual, transgender, whatever. For me, at least, there was no defining moment when I realized that I was gay- it was more a slowly building realization and acceptance of myself to the point where I felt comfortable with letting other people in on this aspect of my life.

When I was in elementary school, I hardly even knew what the word “lesbian” meant. As far as I was concerned, girls ended up with boys and vice-versa. Still, I was painfully aware of the lack of interest that I had in boys. All of my friends would go on about boys as we got older and entered middle school. I wondered if there was something wrong with me. It was around that time that I began to feel very close to certain females in my life- in my mind these were nothing more than friendships, but subconsciously I wanted them to be more than friendships.

When I got to high school, I knew by this time that there was something different about me and I had begun to question my sexuality. It was as if I had been told that I had a terminal illness- I was in shock and did not believe that it could happen to me. So I chose to ignore the growing “problem” of my sexuality. I pretended to be interested in boys and at times was almost able to convince myself that I was. But in the end, my attraction to girls was something that I could no longer ignore. It had been causing me massive amounts of stress and my family and friends had begun to notice that there was something wrong with me. I spent about of year coming out to myself and accepting the fact that I was gay, and eventually started coming out to my friends and family. Their reactions were much better than I had even anticipated.

The point that I want to get across is, if you identify with being LGBTQ but are afraid to come out, the reactions that you get will most likely be much better than you anticipate. Because you feel alone and hopeless now doesn’t mean that you always will. It’s been a year since I started coming out, and it’s amazing how things have changed. All my friends and family accept me completely, and I met a ton of other gay/bisexual people (there are a lot more than you think)! My first dating experience with a girl was both amazing and a learning experience. My life is so much better than it was a year ago, and in my opinions, coming out (as long as you are in a safe environment) is worth it one hundred percent.

Love,

Christine.

"

Bisexuals... No where to be found?
WRONG!
THEY ARE EVERY WHERE! WE ARE TAKING OVER!
Not really... It was a Joke!
But I am here to enlighten you on how many bisexual celebrities there are in case you want someone to look up to or you were curious on celebrities who are!


Angelina Jolie

Amber Heard

Megan Fox

Evan Rachel Wood

Lady Gaga

Drew Barrymoore

Megan Mullally

Jesse J

Amy Whinehouse

Jenna Jameson

Tila Tequila

Amber Rose

Drea De Mateo

Lindsay Lohan

Kylie Minogue Joins

Katherine Hepburn

Fergie

 

In all my blog I try and show the bisexuals reading my blogs you are not alone! There are tons like you! Not only that but several gorgeous, famous bisexuals, it will all turn out all right! :)

Lesbian Terms!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzNQOI_EXlo

This is a girl named Jenna's video! She has a whole channel about lesbian stuff! It isn't as geared towards the bisexuals as much but she is very informative! This video is her talking about the different terms in lesbian relationships! It is really funny! The terms that she is describing is like code language for the gay community! It opens up a whole world that most people don't know about. If you are a bisexual and you are in a relationship with a girl a lot of things she talks about or words she uses will come up in the relationship (Uhal joke, gender roles, ect.)

Dear Bisexuals:

Invest in rainbows. Why? Rainbow as most people should know represents gay pride! Some people wear rainbows because they like them.  But if someone is truly decked out in rainbows they are most likely sending you a signal that they are either bisexual, gay, or heteroflexible.  I purchased a rainbow bracelet and already met a few other bisexuals.  Someone's sexuality isn't written on their shirt, we live in a society where people the majority of the time are straight; therefore people naturally assume you like the opposite gender.  If you are interested in finding a fellow bisexual, by wearing the bracelet you are showing that you have gay pride.  This lets them know that you are either gay, bisexual, or heteroflexible(a straight person who is comfortable and supportive of gay people).  Don't worry though! Straight people are usually not aware what rainbows mean! They don't really think anything of it because they aren't exposed to the meaning behind it, generally the only people who pick up on it are people who are just like you! If someone asks about the rainbow bracelet it is like they are sending you the signal that they recognize the meaning behind it.  To all the bisexuals (male or female) if you are just coming out or have come out but are still closeted I would like to tell you are not alone! There are tons of people out there for you to meet! 1 out of every 10 people identifies them self as gay or bisexual. I know tons and tons of people who are gay/bisexual.  There is like an underground railroad! Word spreads to only people that are safe to know or tell, once you come out there are a lot more people then you would think.  Pay attention to the rainbows! :)

The definition of a bisexual is someone who is emotionally and physically attracted to both genders. Bisexual however can be a term that covers many different sexualities.  What I call a True Bisexual is someone who is physically attracted to men and women, could fall in love with either gender, and they could end up marrying a man or a woman.

My defintions on some bisexuals:

70/30: A person who is mainly attracted to the opposite gender, occasionally they could swing to someone of the same gender, but they dont generally seek out the same sex.

"Beersexuals": A "bisexual" who kisses women (like in a club setting) to get the attention of men, is comfortable kissing a woman but isn't attracted to girls.

Bicurious: Someone who is exploring their feelings for how they feel twards each gender, and exploring their own sexuality.

A homosexual sorting through the process: Coming all the way out of the closet is hard and confusing! Society sends gays signals from the media that they should be straight, since the media aims at the larger population of straight people.  Homosexuals can be unsure at first. Also by saying they are bisexual the gay person can see how others feel about their same sex attraction and its a good halfway point before they come forward with others about being gay. 

Phew! I think that pretty much covers the different "bisexual" groups.  A true bisexual can get sort of a bad repuation because a gay person could fall for someone who they thought was bisexaul but isnt really romantically or physically attracted to them fully. Or a bisexual could date another bisexual but one of the bisexuals could be gay and going through the coming out phase and so the bisexual will help them through it.  A barsexual can frusterate or confuse gays, bisexuals, or straight people even!

True bisexuals can have people say things to them like "This is a phase" or "You're gay you will figure it out eventually" or "Pick a gender you can't be in the middle" or "You're just doing it for attention." But being bisexual can be a sexual preference you remain as for the rest of your life and you wont transition or change from at all.  A True Bisexual isn't confused they just like both genders.

I decided to write something a little less heavy in this post...

 A lot of people ask me what it is like to date a woman.  My first response is usually, "It is amazing."
What people don’t ever ask is what is the weirdest part about dating someone of the same sex.

One of the weirdest things is going on dates with a girl.  You can do things together that you both like.  Like as a date activity you can paint your nails, do each other’s hair, or go shopping for dresses.  This was kind of weird for me because I have never been on a date with a boy and said to him, "Now would you like me to paint your toes pink or purple?"

Another weird thing about dating a girl is you have so many things in common that are specific only to you gender so you can really talk in depth about something that someone of the opposite gender wouldn't understand, purely because they have never been through it. (shaving legs, craving chocolate, emotions)

But the weirdest thing by far is the bathroom situation.  My first date with a girl was at the movies.  After it was over we both had to go to the bathroom.  People in movies never tell you what to do in this situation! Do we both go in and use the bathroom in stalls next to each other? Do I go in and she waits outside? In the end we both went in together.  But it is so weird to try and impress your date and both walk into the women's restroom!

This speech is absaloutly beautiful! I love how this was phrased and the way she presented herself. The woman speaking is a republican(a party who is more often then not opposed to gay marriage). A lot of people think that if you are a republican you will take a stand on the issue as being against gay marriage.  The thing is Gays, Lesbians, bisexuals come in all shapes in sizes! They are actresses, models, Mormons, Christians, doctors, therapists, Republicans, and anything imaginable really. Just like there are people with brown eyes from different back grounds or different beliefs doesnt make them more or less likely to have brown eyes.  Brown eye people are everywhere, just like homosexuals.

Gay Marriage Video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_zNKTTtAXCs

Please watch this link with the video! :)

I think this video is very moving.  Having a women like Ellen representing the gay population is truly wonderful in my opinion.  She is also a comedian and entertainer who is great at what she does.  I think she helps people's perception of what it means to be a lesbian. Ellen does a great job of being who she is and being in the public eye as much as she is, I think she is effecting the way people feel about lesbians.  Seeing she has such a wide fan group makes me have hope that one day Gay Marriage will be legal in ALL 50 states.

I think one of the ways you can find out if your bisexual or not is if you have felt an attraction to the same sex for a while, as opposed to wanting to kiss an attractive woman while you are drunk at a party.  It was around the time when I was twelve that I started to think that I was attracted to women.  I didn't really know what that meant besides the fact that my second cousin was lesbian.  I had heard of this thing called "gaydar" where one persons intuition helps them detect another persons sexual orientation; usually if someone is gay then they have a better "gaydar." Knowing this I was paranoid that when my cousin came to visit that she would be able to tell that I was attracted to women because she was a lesbian.  I didn't want to be attracted to girls. I was just over whelmed with fear that I couldn't reverse it.  I just wanted to go in the computer file of who I was and click delete.  I was checking out the cheerleaders at basketball games, looking at girls on T.V., having dreams about girls, pulled in by their perfume smell, and overall couldn't stop this overwhelming fear of me liking women.  To the other bisexuals, lesbians, and gays out there, my opinion is this is your "denial phase" I am not the only one who has felt this way either.  You enter a period of deep denial, where your afraid of exploring that part of yourself.  For other gay and lesbians who I have talked to, have expressed that they too were terrified of "being gay."  Some people are stuck in this phase for a long time.  It takes so much energy to hide and discourage that part of yourself.  I remember thinking, "If I ignore this it will go away and it wont be true anymore."  I couldn't even admit it to myself.  This blog is hopefully helping those who read it! I would like to say as someone who has allowed myself to be comfortable with that part of myself I am ten times happier.  There is nothing to be afraid of! The longer you hide who you are the more you can hurt yourself, when you accept yourself there is like this feeling of relief and you open up and can love yourself.  Don't rush this phase however, coming out and accepting yourself is a process. My hope is that everyone can at some point accept and love every part of who they are.

About three weeks ago...

Crazy wont even begin to describe my night. I finally wanted to come out to my parents.  I was planning for days on how I wanted to do it. A funny way maybe? A few days earlier my mom and I were talking about bicurious people for three hours debating and talking about it. She was worried about how it would become all about the boys, girls kissing each other trying to impress the guys.  We were debating about what being "bicurious" means.  That day in the car it was like my mom almost noticed something. Like she was wondering why I had brought up exploring your sexuality.  The other night my dad asked, "Why haven't we seen any boys here lately?" Asking about my love life I told him I was taking a break from guys.  I asked him what he would do if my little brother was gay he answers, "I don't know." I then asked him if he was gay would my dad allow him to have sleepovers.  He replies "I never thought about it I guess because your little brother is so obviously straight!" He and I laugh about this.   I wanted to tell him first so he and I would have a secret together. But I couldn't tell him.  I was at home, it's almost dark.  Well it's pretty much dark. I was sippping coffee and my parents are putzing around in the kitchen.

Me:How do you handle surprises
Mom: Depends on the surprise
Me: What if it was good but maybe bad too?
Mom: Well if you were gay it would be a good surprise because we would know you had been withholding a big secret and that would be hard on you
Me: What if I was gay?
Mom:We would accept you
Me:Could you see me being gay?
Mom: I dont know... Maybe... Why... Are you gay?
She says this last comment laughing a little... Well I guess now is as good a time as any...
Me: I'm bisexual

She starts laughing and then says, "Your kidding right?" She laughs again so I shake my head when she looks at me.  She looks shocked and then says something.  I start crying.  Hearing those words aloud.  It was like saying it out loud like that was like me coming to terms with the fact that I was bisexual.  They both come and sit with me both comforting me hugging me.  It was like the best reaction I could have hoped for.  We sit for a little while and talk about it.  I asked my mom if she can see it fitting me.  She said she is so surprised but it fits with my personality.We keep talking and seeing how both my parents are okay with this helps me a lot.  Now I can finally embrace that part of myself fully. I am Bisexual.