Countries that honor Gay Marriage or Civil Union for same Sex Couples are:
Argentina
Belgium
Brazil
Canada
Iceland
Isreal
Mexico
The Netherlands
Norway
Portugal
South Africa
Spain
Sweden
Sunday, May 20, 2012
Other Countries
America Is Pretty Great For The Most Part... But we don't honor gay marriage like other countries, there are several other countries that honor gay marriage when we don't.
Countries that honor Gay Marriage or Civil Union for same Sex Couples are:
Argentina
Belgium
Brazil
Canada
Iceland
Isreal
Mexico
The Netherlands
Norway
Portugal
South Africa
Spain
Sweden
In my opinion for a country (America) that is supposed to be about freedom and equality, it certainly doesn't feel like that right now.
Countries that honor Gay Marriage or Civil Union for same Sex Couples are:
Argentina
Belgium
Brazil
Canada
Iceland
Isreal
Mexico
The Netherlands
Norway
Portugal
South Africa
Spain
Sweden
Gay Marriage
One of the political issues I would like to bring up is gay marriage. There is a lot of rights that a marriage has for a couple. If you are straight I would ask that you educate people on gay people or bisexuals, that our message is really about love so that we may have the right to marry who we love one day. If you are bisexual or gay I hope you are spreading the message so that we can make marriage for homosexual couples legal one day. I would love one day to have the love I have for another person honored in case I marry someone of the same gender. Imagine not being able to visit the love of your life in the hospital with their last final minuets of their life because you are not related and your relationship is not honored by law... Lets change that! Please vote in favor of gay marriage, and support same sex marriage.
-Better or lower cost insurance
-Can pay a lot less for taxes
-Their partner can gain power of attorney,health care decisions, and inheritance rights
- They can be on the same insurance (like for their company they can put their partner on their insurance plan)
-Estate tax
The benefits of gay marriage studies have shown:
- Less stress in households
-In places where gay marriage is illegal couples have shown to have the highest level of "Minority Stress"
-It encourages monogamy and safe long term committed relationships setting positive examples
This list is just SOME of the benefits
Being Bisexual
What is it like to like both genders?
Sometimes it rocks!
You really understand guys because you both have one huge thing in common! Women! You can talk about girls you like, issues you are having with your girlfriend, and your on the same page! Most guys when I tell them I am bisexual say, "Awesome" and we launch into a conversation about women!
The other perk about being bisexual is girls are usually okay with it because you still like men and so you still can talk about guys together.
The gay community can be very accepting and you can talk with lesbian friends about women.
Sometimes it is not so great....
Sometimes if you tell a straight girl they can look at you weirdly and feel uncomfortable. There is also a big part that you don't have in common, you also like women and they don't.
Sometimes lesbians can say to you "Make up your mind" or dislike the fact that you like men and will say things like, "Well you're not like me you like men."
When both groups don't like the fact that you prefer both genders you can kind of be out on your own island. It can be hard to find people you can relate to because being bisexual is a thing by itself.
Another issue is guys can be really disrespectful about your attraction to women and think it is only a sexual thing and say things like "That is hot" and not respect the fact that being bisexual is about loving someone and isn't a game.
Finally, a lot of people say things to you like "It is a phase" or "Everyone experiments."
Let me clarify my girlfriends are not science experiments. I don't inject them with green goo and just date them to play around. I date them because I have feelings for them and am attracted to them. It is also not a phase unless a phase is something that you remain as for the rest of your life. I believe you are born bisexual and I want my relationships with women to be honored as what it really is, romantic love that I have for another person.
Sometimes it rocks!
You really understand guys because you both have one huge thing in common! Women! You can talk about girls you like, issues you are having with your girlfriend, and your on the same page! Most guys when I tell them I am bisexual say, "Awesome" and we launch into a conversation about women!
The other perk about being bisexual is girls are usually okay with it because you still like men and so you still can talk about guys together.
The gay community can be very accepting and you can talk with lesbian friends about women.
Sometimes it is not so great....
Sometimes if you tell a straight girl they can look at you weirdly and feel uncomfortable. There is also a big part that you don't have in common, you also like women and they don't.
Sometimes lesbians can say to you "Make up your mind" or dislike the fact that you like men and will say things like, "Well you're not like me you like men."
When both groups don't like the fact that you prefer both genders you can kind of be out on your own island. It can be hard to find people you can relate to because being bisexual is a thing by itself.
Another issue is guys can be really disrespectful about your attraction to women and think it is only a sexual thing and say things like "That is hot" and not respect the fact that being bisexual is about loving someone and isn't a game.
Finally, a lot of people say things to you like "It is a phase" or "Everyone experiments."
Let me clarify my girlfriends are not science experiments. I don't inject them with green goo and just date them to play around. I date them because I have feelings for them and am attracted to them. It is also not a phase unless a phase is something that you remain as for the rest of your life. I believe you are born bisexual and I want my relationships with women to be honored as what it really is, romantic love that I have for another person.
Funny Story...
I was sitting in the car with two of my friends during my off hour and we were eating bagel chips and just talking about relationships as girls do.
The only twist was that I was the bisexual in the car, one of my friends in the car is straight, and the other is a lesbian. We are all in relationships.
My lesbian friend was talking about her girlfriend and the fun Friday night she had had with her girlfriend, where they cuddled and kissed. Me and my other friend were supportive and gave her congratulatory high fives on her first kiss with her new girlfriend.
My straight friend was talking about her boyfriend. Telling us stories about cute notes he leaves her and what he is like as a kisser. We were all giggly talking about him together as girls.
I was talking about my girlfriend as well. The funny thing is when my friend was talking about her girlfriend I was thinking "ooolalal!" and when my other friend was talking about her boyfriend I was thinking "Ohhhlalal" I know what it is like to kiss a girl you like and to kiss a guy you like. Though my lesbian friend is supportive she sometimes looks funny at me my straight friend when we drool at hot guys, and my straight friend still looks at me and my lesbian friend when we drool at hot girls.
The point of my story is I don't think sexuality is a choice, nor do I think people can influence each other's sexuality. When I listen to my lesbian friend talk I wonder "But how can you not find muscles appealing though... and big strong arms guys have, and when they smile at you" and when I hear my straight friend talk sometimes I think "How can you not look at girls and love their smiles or there long soft hair or fruity perfumes"
I will never know what its like to be straight or a lesbian. And they will never know what it is like to be bisexual. But talking with them about our crushes makes you realize its all about who you love and being happy. Gender doesn't matter.
Below is a link about a coming out story of a bisexual!
http://www.polarimagazine.com/idaho-2012/idaho-myths-bisexuality
So I took my girlfriend to prom!
I was really nervous about how it would go because generally it is a man and a woman who go to prom. Surprisingly however everyone was okay with it. I didn't feel uncomfortable at the dance with her at all! It was if I had brought a guy. We didn't get any rude comments or any dirty looks. It made me really happy because I think it would have been upsetting to have anything negative happen.I had to buy her a corsage which I have never done before and she bought me one and I had to tie it on for her. I will admit I was actually really nervous, parents came over and took photos beforehand. Introducing her to the parents made me really nervous and picture were pretty awkward because all lined up for photos it was pretty obvious that we were two girls going together. One of my friends is Lutheran and her parents were there, in their religion they believe that dating someone of the same sex is wrong. They were very respectful however and I really appreciated that. The whole night at dinner my friend who is Lutheran she was very nice as well. I felt really accepted. My girlfriend and I were holding hands and our waiter was very nice and polite and didn't act weirdly or treat us any different either. Slow dancing at the dance was weird because we tried a gender neutral slow dance position and neither of us had done it before but we made it work in the end. We ended up having a really fun time and saw an open gay couple there which was fun. I was really happy that everything went how it did. My advice to you if you are gay or bisexual and dating someone who is the same gender bring them to a dance. I had no problem and if you are confident and self assured it feels good to bring someone you like to dance with you. If you are straight show your support and smile at us! Acceptance feels great! :)
I was really nervous about how it would go because generally it is a man and a woman who go to prom. Surprisingly however everyone was okay with it. I didn't feel uncomfortable at the dance with her at all! It was if I had brought a guy. We didn't get any rude comments or any dirty looks. It made me really happy because I think it would have been upsetting to have anything negative happen.I had to buy her a corsage which I have never done before and she bought me one and I had to tie it on for her. I will admit I was actually really nervous, parents came over and took photos beforehand. Introducing her to the parents made me really nervous and picture were pretty awkward because all lined up for photos it was pretty obvious that we were two girls going together. One of my friends is Lutheran and her parents were there, in their religion they believe that dating someone of the same sex is wrong. They were very respectful however and I really appreciated that. The whole night at dinner my friend who is Lutheran she was very nice as well. I felt really accepted. My girlfriend and I were holding hands and our waiter was very nice and polite and didn't act weirdly or treat us any different either. Slow dancing at the dance was weird because we tried a gender neutral slow dance position and neither of us had done it before but we made it work in the end. We ended up having a really fun time and saw an open gay couple there which was fun. I was really happy that everything went how it did. My advice to you if you are gay or bisexual and dating someone who is the same gender bring them to a dance. I had no problem and if you are confident and self assured it feels good to bring someone you like to dance with you. If you are straight show your support and smile at us! Acceptance feels great! :)
Bisexual Myths
Common Myths on Bisexuality are everywhere! I would like to clear some of the most common ones up!
"Everyone is bisexual"
This is NOT true. So many people are straight. It is common for people to occasionally feel attraction towards someone of the same gender, this attraction usually passes for most people. If you have an attraction to someone of the same gender once, or have kissed a girl, it doesn't make you a bisexual. Bisexuals are physically, emotionally, and spiritually attracted to both genders and it is something that does not change throughout their lives.
"Bisexuals spread sexually transmitted diseases, and are 'Dirty'"
Just because a bisexual can have sex with both genders doesnt mean they don't practice safe sex. Bisexuals can use protection. Just because they are bisexual does not mean they have a higher rate of contracting a disease.
"Bisexuals can't be monogamous"
Bisexuals can date one person for their whole life be it a guy or girl. They can date several men and women or they can be with one person their whole life, just as a straight person could be with several people or one person.
"Bisexuals don't exist"
I am going to let you in on a secret... were real! I know, I know its shocking, its like finding out the Easter Bunny is real! We can fall in love with a guy or a girl. We could be physically attracted to men or women. And as a bisexual who is blogging this I can tell you I am sure of who I like and the people I am attracted to.
"Bisexuals Like Everyone"
Not true. Just as a straight girl likes guys it doesn't mean she likes every guy, it is the gender she is attracted to. For me personally (and other bisexuals as well) there are certain people we are attracted to and certain people we aren't attracted to. I find some women and men attractive and some women and men I am not attracted to at all.
If you would like to read more visit the link below.
http://www.uic.edu/depts/quic/bisandallies/myths.html
or Check this site out
http://www.alternet.org/sex/149710/9_stupid_myths_about_bisexuals_that_will_make_you_laugh/
"Everyone is bisexual"
This is NOT true. So many people are straight. It is common for people to occasionally feel attraction towards someone of the same gender, this attraction usually passes for most people. If you have an attraction to someone of the same gender once, or have kissed a girl, it doesn't make you a bisexual. Bisexuals are physically, emotionally, and spiritually attracted to both genders and it is something that does not change throughout their lives.
"Bisexuals spread sexually transmitted diseases, and are 'Dirty'"
Just because a bisexual can have sex with both genders doesnt mean they don't practice safe sex. Bisexuals can use protection. Just because they are bisexual does not mean they have a higher rate of contracting a disease.
"Bisexuals can't be monogamous"
Bisexuals can date one person for their whole life be it a guy or girl. They can date several men and women or they can be with one person their whole life, just as a straight person could be with several people or one person.
"Bisexuals don't exist"
I am going to let you in on a secret... were real! I know, I know its shocking, its like finding out the Easter Bunny is real! We can fall in love with a guy or a girl. We could be physically attracted to men or women. And as a bisexual who is blogging this I can tell you I am sure of who I like and the people I am attracted to.
"Bisexuals Like Everyone"
Not true. Just as a straight girl likes guys it doesn't mean she likes every guy, it is the gender she is attracted to. For me personally (and other bisexuals as well) there are certain people we are attracted to and certain people we aren't attracted to. I find some women and men attractive and some women and men I am not attracted to at all.
If you would like to read more visit the link below.
http://www.uic.edu/depts/quic/bisandallies/myths.html
or Check this site out
http://www.alternet.org/sex/149710/9_stupid_myths_about_bisexuals_that_will_make_you_laugh/
Friday, May 11, 2012
We are a myth?
The other day a guy came up to me and my friends and I were talking. The fact that I had a girlfriend came up and he says to me," Wait so you're a lesbian?" I respond, "No I am a bisexual," To which he responds I don't believe that there is such a thing I think you're gay and bisexuals use it as a cover up."
I set him straight by explaining there are bisexuals. People can like and be attracted to both genders just like a straight girl could like several different types of guys. I guess I am reiterating the fact that bisexuality does exist, and while there are people who can be using the word bisexual to come out of the closet half way, there are also bisexuals who will stay bisexual.
Now in my blog I have been talking a lot about women. I would like to point out that I do like men as well. Celebrities like Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom, and guys that go to my school. Men and women alike are beautiful. Just as a person has two hands and can hold two things at once bisexuals can like both genders. I read a funny quote on a site that said , "If God had intended for there to be bisexuals he would have created two genders..." Haha :)
I set him straight by explaining there are bisexuals. People can like and be attracted to both genders just like a straight girl could like several different types of guys. I guess I am reiterating the fact that bisexuality does exist, and while there are people who can be using the word bisexual to come out of the closet half way, there are also bisexuals who will stay bisexual.
Now in my blog I have been talking a lot about women. I would like to point out that I do like men as well. Celebrities like Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Orlando Bloom, and guys that go to my school. Men and women alike are beautiful. Just as a person has two hands and can hold two things at once bisexuals can like both genders. I read a funny quote on a site that said , "If God had intended for there to be bisexuals he would have created two genders..." Haha :)
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
The Flag
So I did some research online and bisexuals have a flag! It is a pink and blue colors overlapping to make purple. Obviously the two colors coming together represents the bisexuals. There is also a page on Facebook that is called "Bisexuals Exist." On the website it talks about how there are people who are truly bisexual, it isn't a phase, they are gay and hiding their sexuality, and they aren't straight just because they marry a man or gay just because they marry a woman. Bisexuals face a lot of stereotypes and have a there are a lot of myths about bisexuality.
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
Bisexual Questions:
Bisexual Questions...
The other day my friend asked me a question that I had to clear up for her...
" So do you have to date a guy and a girl at the same time to truly be satisfied?"
It is a good question but the answer is no. For example if you are straight girl and you are in love with a guy, you could technically be dating plenty of other guys and you are probably still attracted to men. But does that mean that you have to date everyone that your attracted to or could possibly love when you already have a boyfriend? No. Being bisexual just means you have two genders you can fall in love with. Not two genders you have to date.
The other day my friend asked me a question that I had to clear up for her...
" So do you have to date a guy and a girl at the same time to truly be satisfied?"
It is a good question but the answer is no. For example if you are straight girl and you are in love with a guy, you could technically be dating plenty of other guys and you are probably still attracted to men. But does that mean that you have to date everyone that your attracted to or could possibly love when you already have a boyfriend? No. Being bisexual just means you have two genders you can fall in love with. Not two genders you have to date.
More Famous Bisexuals!
So I found out about some new bisexuals to add to our famous Bisexual list!
Anna Paquin
Laura Lafrate
And....
Jillian Michaels just came out recently!
I really admire these celebrities for coming out! I didn't put on any of the famous lesbians even though there are a lot of lesbians as well. I hope I am getting people to realize that there are a lot of bisexuals out in the world and this just the famous people. I bet you are having trouble thinking of straight celebrities.... just kidding :)
Anna Paquin
I really admire these celebrities for coming out! I didn't put on any of the famous lesbians even though there are a lot of lesbians as well. I hope I am getting people to realize that there are a lot of bisexuals out in the world and this just the famous people. I bet you are having trouble thinking of straight celebrities.... just kidding :)
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